Standing in front of the mirror looking at my reflection I was telling myself “Why is my nose so big, why don’t I have thigh gap, or abs, or why am I breaking out??”. This was my everyday self criticizing breakfast talk! I don’t know about you, but I did this to myself everyday almost every time I looked in the mirror. This habit of self criticizing myself was too common for me and in habited in my life. I would always find something lacking in my appearance.
But a slightest compliment from someone would make me smile, turn my day better, boost my confidence and esteem. I longed for compliments cause they made my day better whoever they were from, a friend, a stranger or a crush it didn’t matter cause I loved them. They were addicting for me like a toxic substance a person would take. But their shelf life was short, sometimes a day, a few hours or just few minutes.
I soon realized that if compliments was something I longed for to make me feel better, then why don’t they come from a person who would be there with me 24/7: ME? The only person who needed to compliment me was I, myself. That compliment would last longer, and could be restocked at any time of the day.
My perception had changed, I realized that sometimes you need to view yourself from someone else’s point of view. Someone who doesn’t care how you look and judge what you are just skin deep. That’s when you realize and see that you are enough, you are pretty, confident, smart, talented and most important of all YOU ARE UNIQUE, not made to fit that ideal type because that is just absurd!!
WHY TRY TO FIT IN, WHEN YOU ARE MEANT TO STAND OUT?
No, I didn’t get those abs I longed for or that thigh gap which I complained about not having or a perfectly sculpted nose either. But I started looking in the mirror without being critical of the person standing in front and told her “You are beautiful just the way you are and You are enough”.