A Note to Myself! 

I’m stronger because I had to be,

I’m smarter because of my mistakes, 

Happier because of the sadness I have known and, 

Now wiser because I learned.

A note to myself, 

Where the things end, where people give up on you, where you start losing hope that’s where you will find me, picking up the pieces, fighting cause we ain’t made to Quit. 

We were never taught to quit, but only to keep fighting even when we are tired, exhausted, drained cause all we know and will ever do is get up, resist and fight back even harder. Cause we are all made the same way, just trained differently. 

We were never taught to be frightened by a tiger rather to look in his eyes and fight fearlessly even though it is much stronger, mightier and powerful than us. All though I ain’t denying that I might  let out a shriek on seeing a lizard. 

Being a girl, we are usually taught and told to wait for our prince charming to save us from the clutches of a Dragon. But we weren’t raised that way. Cause:

I am the writer of my story, who doesnt need a hero to be saved from the dragons cause I  know how to fight them all

So, break all norms you want. Cause I am with you no matter what. With you, in your happiest moments, in your saddest of the times and most tough ones as well. And always remember; to be only afraid of one person : Yourself. 

Having A Bad Day? 

Do you have those kinda days when everything is going wrong? When everything around you is tumbling down? 

Like you reached late to work, had a bad lunch, forgot your wallet or heard an earful from your boss, or maybe someone bailed on your plans or you just had a bad hair day. 

It’s okay, Take a deep breath! 

Breath in……. Hold…….. Breath Out

Now go ahead and call up a friend and rant all about your day, let it all out, crib all you want cause that just won’t help you but also your friend will feel good to hear from you unless he owes money to you. 😛

Because that’s how friendships are supposed to work, no matter how far you guys are or no matter how long it’s been since you guys last spoke true friends will always have your back. They are the ones to help you sail through all kinds of storms and help you Cherish your journey. They will believe in you when the world has already given up, their help is just one call away and all the time spent with them is like a precious treasure you will never want to give up. 

Yes, it’s true that in the end it’s you who has to fight the battles but a true friend is like the Red Bull for those All-nighters you pull. They help you keep going on. 

New Year, New Me!! 


Comes another year which brings a new set of resolutions with the attitude of “New Year, New Hopes”. 

I too like most of the people was expecting change and had my heart filled with hope, jumping up and down with excitement with this whole pleasant aura of the new year. 

But it’s not even two weeks yet and I have already started giving up on this year. Why? Was it because I was expecting too much change? Or was it because I was blinded by hope and excitement that took me away from the reality? 

No, it was because I was expecting change externally. I wanted situations, challenges and problems around me to just disappear with a wave of a wand. But such things are beyond one’s control. Problems, challenges, ups and downs these things keep coming and going. You can’t control their arrival or departure. 

With my 2016 being quite rough, I learnt many life lessons. I had my days of ups and downs, despair, grief, depression and failure. It wasn’t that I only I had bad days, some days were good as well. 

But the year had set really high expectations and hopes for 2017. But, this time I have decided to bring change internally. The fire of “New Year, New Me” has been ignited, and the first resolution I shall make is of never giving up. 

Bad times shall come and go but the fire to keep fighting and to keep moving on should never die. Cause it’s within these times, when you realise who your true friends are and how strong you actually can be. 

MIRROR, MIRROR!

Standing in front of the mirror looking at my reflection I was telling myself “Why is my nose so big, why don’t I have thigh gap, or abs, or why am I breaking out??”. This was my everyday self criticizing breakfast talk!  I don’t about you, but I did this to myself everyday almost every time I looked in the mirror. This habit of self criticizing myself was too common for me and in habited in my life. I would always find something lacking in my appearance.

But a slightest compliment from someone would make me smile, turn my day better, boost my confidence and esteem. I longed for compliments cause they made my day better whoever they were from, a friend, a stranger or a crush it didn’t matter cause I loved them. They were addicting for me like a toxic substance a person would take. But their shelf life was short, sometimes a day, a few hours or just few minutes.

I soon realized that if compliments was something I longed for to make me feel better, then why don’t they come from a person who would be there with me 24/7: ME? The only person who needed to compliment me was I, myself. That compliment would last longer, and could be restocked at any time of the day.

Screenshot_2016-04-10-21-58-14.pngMy perception had changed, I realized that sometimes you need to view yourself from someone else’s point of view. Someone who doesn’t care how you look and judge what you are just skin deep. That’s when you realize and see that you are enough, you are pretty, confident, smart, talented and most important of all YOU ARE UNIQUE, not made to fit that ideal type because that is just absurd!!

WHY TRY TO FIT IN, WHEN YOU ARE MEANT TO STAND OUT?

No, I didn’t get those abs I longed for or that thigh gap which I complained about not having or a perfectly sculpted nose either. But I started looking in the mirror without being critical of the person standing in front and told her “You are beautiful just the way you are and You are enough”.

ALone Or LONELY??

Did you know that alone and lonely Are so different from one another??

One of my friend has taken psychology as her major, so one day while we were chatting  this topic popped and she told me that alone and lonely are so different from one another. So, being an inquisitive person I googled more about this topic.

Alone: When no other person is with you

Lonely: A kind of aching that resonates in your chest, a dull, constant feeling that follows around all day long.

When one is alone, one can love oneself and even connect with himself. But, on the other side, loneliness is the isolation that comes with an expectation unmet, a feeling unreturned, one shall blame himself or a feeling of being disconnected. One can feel lonely even a room full of people.

How to Avoid being lonely? Or how to overcome this feeling?

  1. Identify the reasons why you feel lonely.In order to make changes that will truly help you, you will need to take some time to figure out why you are feeling lonely. Consider some of the following questions to help you determine why you are feeling lonely:
  • When do you feel the most lonely?
  • Do certain people make you feel more lonely when you are around them?
  • How long have you been feeling this way?
  • What does feeling lonely make you want to do?
  1. Start a journal to track your thoughts and feelings. Journaling can help you to understand your feelings of loneliness better and it is also a great way to relieve stress. To get started with journaling, choose a comfortable place and plan to devote about 20 minutes per day to writing. You can start by writing about how you are feeling or what you are thinking, or you can use a prompt.Placeholder Image
  1. Practice meditation. Some research has suggested that meditation may ease feelings associated with loneliness and depression. Meditation is also a great way to get more in touch with your feelings of loneliness and start to understand where they come from. Learning to meditate takes time, practice, and guidance, so your best bet is to find a meditation class in your area. Even apps can help you mediate, one such app is CALM.
  1. Consider talking to a therapist about how you have been feeling. It may be hard to figure out why you feel lonely and how to move past those feelings. A licensed mental health professional can help you to understand and work through your loneliness. Talking to a therapist can help you understand what is going on and decide on the best course of action.
  1. Consider getting a pet. If you’re truly struggling without companionship, consider adopting a dog or cat from your local animal shelter. Pets have been domestic companions for centuries for a reason, and winning the trust and affection of an animal can be a deeply rewarding experience.IMG-20160111-WA0000
  2. Get involved in activities. To make new friends, you will have to get out and get involved in things. Consider joining a sports league, taking a class, or volunteering within your community.
  3. Spend time with your family. Working to deepen the relationships with your family may also help you to stop feeling so lonely

 

The Taste Of FAILURE

It was bad, like someone had hit me on my stomach after blowing a hard punch on my face. I didn’t like it, AT ALL. It all happened within seconds, but its impact had not only left me with bruises but also a bad aftertaste which was making me sick to the core.

No, I didn’t get beaten up if that what you are thinking at least not in an actual way. I had an encounter with FAILURE. A CLOSE ONE. It had left me in a shock, and I didn’t like that feeling at all.

It made me feel like I had fallen down while walking. I didn’t want to get up; I wanted to just accept it and lie down there and live in terms with it. I felt like the people around me are laughing at me which made it worse. But a close look at them and I realized that no one had the time to laugh at me cause everyone was busy fighting their own battle and trying to learn to walk as well.

Now, it was time to make a decision whether I wanted to get up and walk in the same direction or take a different route. Cause I had to get up, I didn’t want to lie there and accept defeat. My friend had pointed out “You have hit rock bottom, now you have nowhere to go but UP!”

I have my friends and family to help me, motivate me, encourage me but the final jump has to be my own. I know it’s easier said than done and your self-esteem will take a toll. But you don’t have to get up right away but whenever you do, make sure it’s with a bang.

You might even fall again but always remember that;

When a child is learning how to walk and falls down 50 times, they never think to themselves “maybe this isn’t for me”.

 

Golden City.

The Golden Gate Bridge is a suspension bridge spanning the Golden Gate strait, the one-mile-wide (1.6 km), three-mile-long (4.8 km) channel between San Francisco Bay and the Pacific Ocean. The bridge is one of the most internationally recognized symbols of San Francisco, California, and the United States

It is the possibly the most beautiful, certainly the most photographed, bridge in the world. With strong summer winds, standing on it was bliss. The view was breathtaking, with the sound of cars racing through it. We even had an experience of the same while our car was driving on such a marvellous work of architecture. Later we went on a point, where one could see the view of the whole Golden Bridge with The whole city of San Francisco. What appealed to me the most was the view of the Pacific Ocean so Beautiful yet mysterious in its own ways.

Pier 39 is a shopping centre and popular tourist attraction built on a pier in San Francisco, California. At Pier 39, there are shops, restaurants, a video arcade, street performances, the Aquarium of the Bay, virtual 3D rides, and views of California sea lions hauled out on docks on Pier 39’s marina. The marina is also home to the floating Forbes Island restaurant. A two-story carousel is one of the pier’s more dominant features, although it is not directly visible from the street and sits towards the end of the pier. The family-oriented entertainment and presence of marine mammals make this a popular tourist location for families with kids. The pier is located at the edge of the Fisherman’s Wharf district and is close to North Beach, Chinatown, and the Embarcadero. From the pier one can see Angel Island, Alcatraz, the Golden Gate Bridge, and the Bay Bridge. Blue & Gold Fleet’s bay cruises leave from Pier 39.

We were present there for a really nice entertainment show. I opened a shell at a shop there and got a ring made out of it. We even tried exquisite styles of breads available there. We also tried the delicious strawberries available there that too dipped in chocolate   which not only pleased my eye but also my taste buds.

Alcatraz Island is located in the San Francisco Bay, 1.25 miles (2.01 km) offshore from San Francisco, California, United States. The small island was developed with facilities for a lighthouse, a military fortification, a military prison (1868), and a federal prison from 1933 until 1963. Today, the island’s facilities are open to tours. Visitors can reach the island by ferry ride from Pier 33, near Fisherman’s Wharf, San Francisco.

Chili’s, Inorbit Malad

As a foodie, I love visiting new places for the love of food. So, last week i went to Chili’s, Inorbit Malad. It is a family-friendly chain serving classic Tex-Mex & American fare in a Southwestern-style setting, located at  2nd floor, Inorbit Mall, Malad.Usually it’s a crowded place on a Saturday eve, luckily we found a table without the hassle of waiting.

The first thing we ordered was Veggie & Cheese Quesadillas. It’s spinach and mushroom creamy sauce, fajita onion & monterey Jack cheese in buttery toasted tortillas. Served with sour cream & house-made pico de gallo. I really liked it, especially the mushrooms plus the sour cream made it a lip smacking dish.

Second we ordered Chipotle Fresh Mex Bowl. It is marinated grilled cottage cheese & veggies with house-made corn & black bean salsa rice and chipotle-pesto.Topped with cheddar cheese, house-made pico de gallo, fresh field greens, chopped cilantro, crispy toryilla strips, fresh sliced avocado & a drizzle of cumin-lime sour cream. Though the whole dish was good yet it wasn’t that appealing to the taste buds, the cottage cheese was good and even the rice but somehow it couldn’t hit the right notes on my tongue.

Last but not the least we had Southern Smokehouse Burger.  It’s Applewood smoked chicken(choice between beef, chicken and lamb), sharp panko onion rings, leaf lettuce, tomato & their signature sauce. Served witha side of Chili’s classic BBQ sauce. This was a really filling dish. Tue fries were good and the pickles with the chicken patty made the burger’s each bite incredible. It was juicy and had really good flavors to savor.

In general, I would give Chili’s a thumbs up, and a place which is a “must visit” atleast once.

 

A Simple Gesture!

Have you ever wondered what you might have been without the people who are currently supporting you, helping you, accompanying you, encouraging you, inspiring you, etc?  Where you might have been if the people currently in your life wouldn’t have existed?

While sitting on a bench alone waiting for a friend I started introspecting, thinking that how with the support of my near and dear I wouldn’t stand a chance to survive. People in your life don’t necessarily have to be your friends, they can be your parents, a stranger whose story inspired you, a person whom you idolise or that special someone.

Many a times we take people in our lives so granted that their importance is realised after we lose them. We regret on things we said to them or the petty fights we had with them. Why is it that we realize a person’s importance only after his/her disappearance from our lives? 

I have many a times seen people crying over the fact that they didn’t thank the person enough to be part of his life, to be there for him in good or bad days, to motivate him, make him happy, etc.

STOP, everything you are doing and thank people in your life to be there for you, to have motivated you, inspired you, for making you happy, for pushing you further, for helping you in any form. If you aren’t good at communicating then thank them through small gestures like take them out for a treat, help them in their chores or just spend some quality time with them.


You don’t know what will happen in the future but make sure they know that they matter to you, right now

Better Late than Never.

Go thank them already!

What are you Deprived of?

What are you Deprived of? I am sure, you have a list of things.

Placeholder ImageNo one is truly happy with what one has.But the question which arises is what is that which doesn’t make a person happy?

I would say it would be a feeling of deprivation. A poor might feel deprived of the riches of the world, while a child would want to grow up fast at the same time an adult is wishing to relive those childhood days.

As a kid i would always admire the lavish cars my fellow mates would arrive to school in. I would always admire the “IT GIRL/BOY” of the school. But looking back today i realize, i had something those kids didn’t have which i realize today. I wasted most of my childhood admiring people rather than being happy with what i had and truly enjoying it. 

One of my closest friends had everything in her life as one would say, and might even assume that she is the luckiest person but not many knew that she was fighting with cancer, Neuroblastoma Cancer. As it’s said, the grass is greener the other side.But why can’t we try to make our side better and also view it with pride.

photocom 081Stop comparing yourself with people and just try to be better than what you were yesterday. That sense of accomplishment will lead you to happiness and drive you away from the feeling of Deprivation.

Now, I would ask again “What are you deprived of?”.

Don’t stress, Do your Best. Forget the rest.